Episode 41: Navigating Overthinking: Unmasking the Stories We Create

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Welcome back to the "Own Your Confidence Podcast." You know, I've noticed I sing a bit of our intro every time, and despite my best efforts, it just keeps happening. But hey, that's just how I roll. In today's episode, we're diving deep into the fascinating topic of overthinking. Now, I'll admit, even I occasionally find myself overthinking things, especially when I fear I've hurt someone. It's like I'm on a mission to validate my actions by replaying scenarios over and over in my head, as if I can somehow change the outcome. But we know that's not how it works, right? So, why do we overthink? What drives us to engage in this mental gymnastics? Let's explore.

The Overthinking Conundrum

Overthinking often stems from low self-esteem. It's like we're trying to predict or control how we perceive a situation by endlessly analyzing it. We think that by replaying scenarios in our minds, we can prepare for any possible outcome. But in reality, we're just stuck in a loop of self-doubt.

Overthinking as Self-Protection

Believe it or not, overthinking is a form of self-protection. It's our way of shielding ourselves from experiences we've had or fear we might have in the future. We're essentially trying to avoid pain or disappointment by preemptively addressing every potential problem. However, this can lead us down a rabbit hole of anxiety.

Transitioning from Overthinking to Mindful Reflection

As someone who has battled with overthinking, I've learned that it's a matter of shifting our mindset. I've found peace within myself, which has silenced the relentless overthinking. Instead of berating ourselves for overthinking, we can choose to see it as a sign, a signal that we need to pay attention to our thoughts and feelings.

Overthinking and False Assumptions

Overthinking often involves creating scenarios that aren't rooted in reality. We create elaborate stories and assign our own beliefs and assumptions to others. This habit can severely impact our emotional well-being. But the good news is, we can take control.

Identifying Your Overthinking Triggers

To combat overthinking, it's essential to recognize your triggers. For example, I've noticed that sitting at a certain traffic light can set off my overthinking. By acknowledging these triggers, we can mentally prepare ourselves to deal with them more effectively.

Replacing Fiction with Facts

Overthinking often spirals into a world of fiction where our fears run wild. But we can redirect our focus to the facts. When I catch myself overthinking, I remind myself of the times I've successfully navigated similar situations. This helps me stay grounded in reality.

Confronting Fear

Fear plays a significant role in overthinking. By acknowledging our fears and understanding how we respond to them, we can learn to talk ourselves through overthinking scenarios. It's like having a conversation with our inner critic, reassuring it that everything will be okay.

We can start to shift the way we overthink. It's a matter of recognizing when we're trapped in this mental loop, understanding our triggers, and redirecting our focus from fiction to facts. By acknowledging our fears and talking ourselves through overthinking scenarios, we can live life more authentically and confidently. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and I'm sending you all the love and support you need. 

XO,

Ellie Curry