Are You Chasing Goals at the Expense of Happiness?

Do you ever have goals you are attempting to accomplish? You are so set on accomplishing them that you tend to block out everything else. Sometimes I can get this way with my business. I am so focused on my goals that I start to let it affect the rest of my life—sometimes even my mood. I consider this circumstantial happiness:
I will be happy when...

The Trap of Circumstantial Happiness

When we do this, we give away control of our emotions and place them on something external. This puts us in the waiting game. Instead of letting yourself be happy now, you have to wait until you achieve something.

Waiting Until You’re “Enough”

I see many women do this with their weight. They hold off loving themselves or being fully happy with their lives because of the way they look. Robbing themselves of the present moment.

Bring Yourself Back to the Now

If you catch yourself doing this, here are a few ways to ground yourself in the present and return to gratitude.
Because you can’t be in fear or hate when you are in gratitude.

1. Deep Breathing

This disrupts your thought patterns and helps you focus in the moment. I would take at least three deep breaths.

2. Positive Affirmation

While you are deep breathing, repeat an affirmation to yourself. This helps train your mind to focus on the positive instead of the limiting beliefs it is sticking to.
Some of my favorites are:

• “I am going at the pace I am supposed to.”
• “I give myself the love I deserve.”
• “I can do hard things.”

3. Gratitude List

Start naming things you are grateful for in your life. Big or small—it all matters. Gratitude shifts your focus from what’s missing to what’s already present.

4. Compliment Yourself

This one is my favorite because you are practicing treating yourself with kindness.
When I start basing my happiness on external things, I often find I’m beating myself up for not being enough already. So I begin to list the things that I am presently good at.
This not only makes me feel better, but it also inspires me to keep going.

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