It Starts with a Sexy Mindset

Want to feel sexy? Then start with creating a sexy mindset! Yes, I have said it before, and I will say it again (and shout it if I have to!)—the key to feeling sexy or being confident is to start with your mindset.

How Are You Talking to Yourself?

When it comes to your body image, where do your thoughts go? For the longest time, my thoughts were not nice! I would beat myself up and see only my “flaws.” It is interesting because when I look back at pictures, I don’t see any of those flaws I used to beat myself up about. I actually wish I had cherished the way I looked and had been more confident in my body image. Can you relate? After realizing this, I decided it was time to break the cycle.

The Sexy Illusion Trap

I started to brainstorm how to feel sexy. What in life made me feel sexy?

• When I lose weight, I will feel sexy.
• When I have perfect skin, I will feel sexy.
• When I can get rid of these bags under my eyes, I will feel sexy.

I chose all of these things that are in the future. Some illusion of sexy, that I don’t even know—once I achieve them—if I will feel sexy. I am making assumptions and using those assumptions to try to solve my need to feel sexy.

Why Wait to Feel Sexy?

Don’t get me wrong, long-term goals are great to have—but why wait on feeling something until you achieve them? Why not feel sexy right now? Feeling sexy is just that—it’s a feeling, and our thoughts create our feelings. We are in control of how we feel each and every day.

Journal Prompt: How Can You Feel Sexy Right Now?

Grab your journal or a piece of paper, and I want you to brainstorm how you can feel sexy right now. List everything that comes to mind.

For me, I feel sexy when I feel luxurious:

• Wearing a cute outfit and some heels
• Right after a workout
• When I have my nails painted

Now I have three different ways I can embody the feeling I want right now.

Ditch the Delay, Feel It Now

This is the process of taking out the middleman you think you need to feel a certain way. This takes the delay out of your desired feelings. Instead of waiting a long time to feel a certain way, you get to create that feeling right now.

Need Help Feeling Sexy?

Having trouble coming up with ideas on how to feel sexy? Think about all the things that bring you to life, that light you up on the inside. Being sexy is living your authentic self. Being sexy is being confident in who you are.