Episode #13: How To Stop Self Sabotaging

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Overcoming the Fear of Others' Opinions

Hey there, it's Ellie Curry, and today I want to dive into a topic that many of us struggle with: self-sabotage. Often, our low self-esteem leads us to prioritize the opinions of others over our own feelings and desires. We hold ourselves back, fearing criticism and embarrassment. But it's time to break free from this pattern and start embracing our true potential.

Shifting Perspective on Self-Sabotage

Self-sabotage often occurs when we prioritize the opinions and judgments of others above our own well-being. We fear negative comments and shame, which can paralyze us from pursuing our goals. However, it's crucial to understand that feeling embarrassment and shame is not as detrimental as living a life dictated by other people's expectations.

Uncovering Emotions and Strengthening Your Opinion

To overcome self-sabotage, we must acknowledge and understand our emotional responses. By examining our fears, embarrassment, and shame, we gain insight into how we internalize external opinions. It's a process of strengthening our own opinions and beliefs over those of others, and it takes time and practice.

Seeking support from trusted individuals can be invaluable on your journey of overcoming self-sabotage. Surround yourself with people who uplift and encourage you as you pursue your dreams. Additionally, breaking down your goals into smaller, more attainable steps and celebrating each milestone helps build confidence and minimizes self-sabotaging behaviors.

Building Confidence and Resilience

Learning to stand firm in your decisions and building confidence in yourself are crucial steps in overcoming self-sabotage. When faced with criticism or negative comments, it's essential to remain secure in who you are. Explore the reasons behind your beliefs about yourself and actively shift those negative narratives. Cultivating a positive mindset empowers you to take control of your own journey.

Practicing Self-Compassion and Kindness

Practicing self-compassion is vital when you're vulnerable and pursuing your dreams. Embrace the possibility of feeling embarrassment and shame along the way, understanding that these emotions contribute to your growth and self-discovery. By being compassionate to yourself and acknowledging that others' opinions don't define you, you can navigate those challenging moments with resilience and grace.

Self-sabotage doesn't have to hold you back from reaching your true potential. By prioritizing your own opinions and being kind to yourself, you can break free from the fear of others' judgments. Embrace the journey, seek support when needed, and always have your own back. Remember, you have the power to create the life you desire and deserve. It's time to stop self-sabotaging and start living authentically.

XO,

Ellie Curry